‘Tis the season for goal setting isn’t it? Year after year we all make New Year’s resolutions with the best of intentions… despite knowing that in a few weeks they’ll be all but forgotten!

 

Why is this? Why do people vow to drop those extra pounds, even go so far as joining a gym, and then never do anything about it? 

I believe it’s because of three reasons: disorganization, fear, and a lack of support.

Whatever your New Year’s resolution is, do the following three things right now and you’ll find it much easier to achieve than ever before:

1. Get Organized

Write down your goal. 

Write it down in detail. 

State it clearly in the present tense. 

Thoughts take on added power when we write them down, but we must write them down in specific ways if we want them to manifest as real in our lives.

For instance, don’t simply write down “I want to try to lose some weight this year”. That’s almost as pointless as not writing your goals down at all. 

First of all “try” is a negative conditioning word. It allows you an excuse when you don’t reach your goal, because on a subconscious level you know that you did what you said you would (”Oh well, at least I tried“). 

Also, it’s not specific. How much weight will you lose? When will you lose it by?

Finally, it’ not a statement. There’s no commitment in the phrase and therefore no driving force to achieve the goal. If you make a New Year’s resolution like this, even if you write it down, you will fail because you didn’t hold yourself to any kind of a standard.

A much more effective way to state this goal would be to write “I have lost 20 pounds by March 15th, 2009” and then sign your name to that declaration and post it where you can see it every day. 

Even better, post it where everyone else in your home can see it every day. That will really create some serious social pressure to see the process through.

 2. Turn Fear into Power

Fear can be quite debilitating. You can know you need to make a change on a logical, conscious level (ie “I need to stop smoking because my doctor told me I’m at risk”) but still be resistant on a subconscious level because of fear (ie “smoking is a social activity and I may lose my friends”).

In order to make any real changes in our lives we need to align both our conscious and subconscious attitudes and beliefs. When we really believe we can accomplish our goals that’s when we’ve successfully turned fear into power and used it to motivate ourselves into action.

But how do we do that? Well, I’ve found hypnosis to be amazing effective at turning fear into power, inaction into action. 

If you’ve got my self hypnosis CDs, then now is the perfect time to use them.

Take a look at the New Year’s resolution that you just wrote down. Read it back to yourself three times, out loud and with positive emotion. State your resolution more confidently and passionately each time. 

Now, listen to your self hypnosis CD. Go on, do it now, it only takes 20 minutes and it’s important to do this so you can inspire your subconcious mind to really believe that you can accomplish this goal. 

I’ll wait right here ’til you come back…

Good. I’m proud of you

Now… shout out  your New Year’s Resolution 3 times with feeling!

Do this every morning for the next 21 days and you’ll have the powerful motivation you need to see this goal though to it’s successful completion.

3. Find Support

No one is an island. The people we interact with every day have a great effect on our ability to change and grow. 

If you’re surrounded by unsupportive people who put you down and don’t believe you can change, then the best thing you can do is stop hanging around them. If that’s not possible, then at least stop listening to them and believing what they say. You are capable of achieving anything you put your mind to in this life and no one else has the power to stop you, unless you let them.

Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who are also interested in improving themselves and you’ll all benefit from the team mentality.

Why try to do it all yourself when there are people and resources that exist that can help you every step of the way?

Create a team of friends and advisors this year that can help you break out of your old routines and reach a whole new level, not just in terms of your New Year’s resolution, but throughout your entire life.

Commit now to ask for help when you need it and use it when it’s offered. You’ll make achieving your goals a whole lot easier when you do.

NOTE: Comments are now OPEN. Here is what was posted previously…

Barbara

Powerful!
and empowering!
your enthusiasm is contagious!
 

Michael

I partiacularly liked the “write it down” comments. This will help me be clear, focused and committed to my 2008 goals.

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